What If They Are the Path to Your Wish Fulfilled?
Gosh, how often have I done this? I felt like doing something, going to a restaurant, writing someone a message, or sending something to someone, but I didn’t.
I didn’t because, well, I talked myself out of it. Often, with all the mighty mental force I could muster. Usually triggered by old fears or learned beliefs. Often, logically deducing it makes no sense. Sometimes also with red-flag lists and, most often – oh, the once-beloved pros-and-cons lists. OMG, those last ones are the worst. In the end, I always wanted to do it, even though I arranged the list to support a “No”.
Have you done that, too?
Well, what if the manifestations you’ve been waiting for all along are hiding behind those weird, illogical urges? Looking back, I can see how many of mine have been hiding behind seemingly innocent little hunches.
You name it. The urge to follow up with someone after a date. The message I didn’t send to my old landlord, only to find the flat on a tenant-search app. The CV I didn’t send because I thought I wasn’t good enough for the role, only to hold a similar one a few months later…
Plenty of those in my life.
But how do you know which urges are the “right ones”?
Well, you don’t. Not really. Not until you try them out.
And some of them won’t turn out as you hoped, either. But eventually, you can see the good they brought.
Why? As I understand it, those urges reflect your state of consciousness around that specific topic. And I guess some of those beliefs are not all shiny and rosy. Some are still messy and limited. Some run deep and were instilled by your parents or society.
So, until you clean out your basement, following your urges might bring you a mixed bag of experiences.
Still, I prefer to follow my hunches rather than talk myself out of them. And yes, sometimes I still negotiate myself out of something like a salesperson.
I don’t mean ignoring clear boundaries or genuine warning signs. I mean those little, seemingly innocent nudges that I dismiss before I even give them a chance.
For those, I now ask: what could actually happen? Maybe it won’t lead where I hoped. Maybe I’ll learn something about myself, what I believe, or what I want to choose differently.
And maybe something lovely will happen.
Get up from the bench
I started following Abraham Hicks’ advice, and it really stuck with me. In this snippet, Esther talks about getting up from the bench, whether a monster is actually in the bushes or not. Meaning, it doesn’t matter whether a ‘monster,’ per se, makes sense; you follow the urge.
